From the Independent, on Tuesday, Catherine Townsend writes...

I was having coffee with my friend Richard the other day, trying to find a way of telling him that I wanted to see him in a new - and preferably horizontal - way. Usually when I have chemistry with someone we are ripping each other's clothes off in a matter of days. But since I was with my ex-boyfriend when we met, Richard and I were now trapped in that place of hopelessness and desperation: the Friendship Zone.
I felt stuck. I wanted to make a move, but didn't want to risk ruining the friendship if everything crashed and burned. Besides, the uncontrollable passion and intrigue at the beginning of the relationship has always been my favourite part: how could I be swept off my feet by a guy whom I'd already seen unshowered and wearing a stained sweatshirt?
I was also terrified of rejection, especially since I’m pretty sure that being knocked back with a line like: “I don’t want to risk ruining the friendship” translates to “I don’t want to see you naked. Ever” Even if he didn’t, what if the sex was horrible and the resulting awkwardness of seeing his hairy naked bits makes it impossible to look him in the eye ever again?

The trouble is that even though the primary purpose of sex is creation, or re-creation, it has a destructive side as well. How easy is is to destroy a good friendship - have sex. Although a really good friendship should, theoretically, survive - as friendship is friendship. But there is not one sexual relationship in my life that has remained in constant 'friendship' - they have all deteriorated and/or died. Maybe that's why I'm grown wary of that whole sexual arena these days!

The article was brought to my attention by a 'friend'.

“We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person.”- Maugham

Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, to borrow a line from Shakespeare.

Hm, thought provoking, but does also lead to the question 'What is love?'

Love has many guises and is mis-called over and over.

Love is in the hand that cups an injured creature but also in the hand that draws back for fear of causing further hurt.

Love is a quiet and modest animal that walks in us all.

The other thing is just lust!

But back to the quote, your thoughts............?

Some interesting points of view - well each to his own!

http://www.solvedating.com/relationship-advice.html

1. Modern Soulmate Theory is based on math and probability calculations.
2. It has nothing to do with reincarnation, astrology, or magic.
3. Soulmates are not destined to be with each other.
4. God may have made a soulmate or a few soulmates for you. God may help you find your soulmate or He may not. Evil forces or your own free will may influence you to choose the wrong person.
5. You may have one or millions of soulmates depending on how different you are from the population mean.
6. Statistically, there is at least one person in this world that will bring you true love, a love that will last a lifetime.
7. People spend a lot of time, money, and energy in their search for soulmates.
8. The odds of finding a soulmate are very slim. Only a few people are lucky enough to find their soulmates.
9. Current dating services are inefficient and flawed.
10. People are "forced" to settle for incompatible mates resulting in break ups and divorces.
11. Human and social capital decrease because of relationship problems.
12. One day in the near future, because of technological advances, people will find their soulmate or soulmates very easily.